My Chachi Had Shown How you Achieve What You Set To!

My Chachi Had Shown How you Achieve What You Set To!

She was my chachi. She was the wife of my father's younger brother. She is now, no more. Thanks to my epilepsy it made her kind to keep me around her though I was not her  biological son.  At that time, adding me we were six kinds in the family. In those days her tough task-master attitude made me uncomfortable but today when she is no more and we ponder about then she is proving to be a boon in disguise. Probably, life believes are like this only.

We had a perception then that 'Life is a mess' but today when my wife gets into trouble in the kitchen and  I solve her riddle then my perception is challenged. This blog is about her only.

My chachi was special:

We see that her life was special. She was special in her own right. At least this is how we see her and feel that her life is worth referring to. This learning made us want to blog about her.

For me, she is one of those rare few who lived her life completely and that too on her terms and conditions. But my Chachi was hence a special creation. She is now no more. All the rituals are over and we all are back to our destinations. New challenges are awaiting us but we are still in our old memories. After all, she was my bread and butter. She had a special place in my life. She unknowingly was a tool for what we are today.

She entered a long time back in my life. At that time we were in our village. While sitting in my room, we recall two early-day events that are still in my memory. One is when she uttered some Hindi phrase rather sarcastically addressed to me meaning  'little knowledge is a dangerous thing'. It was because I was a baby then and yet, posing me high. And second, when she was giving me tips on life when we were on the same riksha and we  were heading towards my new destination. It was the Hyderabad colony of BHU, Varanasi where my chachi and her family were lodged. At that time, on intervention of my grandfather, i was asked to stay with my uncle family for the treatment of my epilepecy,

Unintenly She Benefitted me:

As said, my background was equally special. We were the second son of my father. I was neurologically and psychologically challenged and mercifully owned for my treatment by my chachi and family. Both, my epilepsy and my psychological problems were creared from day one of my life, It was probably because at the time of birth, I was wounded in the brain. This conclusion is based on MRI report and psychological  symptoms.

My limitations were gifts in disques as it had a mixed effects. For, this had opened up an avenue for my education and growth while living with my high profile uncle who was well- known professor in physics in BHU at that time. On another hand, I had become a tool in the hand of my chachi. This coincidence made two changes in me. One that I as a baby become keen observant of my Chachi belaviour and try integrating that in my behaviours  In those  days, one of drive was to get me integrated in that family. It was technically not possible.

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Her life was an inspiration:

What we have talked about shows how we were closely attached to her. This made me a critical observer of her personality and her lifestyle. This have made me her worshipper as I loved refering her in most of my talks. She was a strong and independent woman and she always lived her life on her own terms. I rarely have seen her afraid to be herself, and she always stood up for what she believed in. It was even in case she was not correct. We have find he special in many context. Some of these are:

• She was a strong and independent woman. She was not afraid to speak her mind, and she always stood up for herself. It was so though she was not lirate. She was educated up 6th standard only though it never reflected in her..
• She lived her life on her own terms. She didn't let anyone dictate how she should live her life. She followed her own dreams and goals, and she didn't care what other people thought. Even when old, she loved staying at he own then to her offsprings. Result that visited her.
• She was not afraid to be herself. She was probably proud of who she was, and she didn't try to become what she wasn't. She was authentic and genuine, and she always remained true to herself.
• She always stood up for what she believed in. She wasn't afraid to speak out against injustice or inequality. She rarely minsed her words in saying what she intend to. She was mostly seen arguing for what was right

Today when we look into the past I do not know that what we learned from her and what  not but this is sure that most of the things which we practice were practiced by her. For example, it is probably her putting important to be authentic and genuine and not to be dictated by others is in us.

What may be your takeaway?

We know that there are serious people. They want to help themselves. The case of my chachi may be an inspiration. As this illiteration show, if she can do what she wanted then why you can not? We have seen that some people are born princes and princesses and others are frogs but, in the end, only those who dare to challange hemselves, they only sustain and survive.

There are two tips for you. The only condition is that you keep the case of my chachi in the background

Today, she is no more but we are not pained either. We are rather happy that she lived her full life. She is one of those rare few who lived, sustained, and said goodbye on her terms and conditions. She begins her life sporting, drilled through challengingly, and concludes pleasantly. This may be good case for one to follow.

Two that you better remember her as a role model and an example of how to live life with dignity and respect. We are all inspired by her courage and determination to make the most of every opportunity that comes her way. Her story is a reminder to us all that hard work, dedication and perseverance are essential ingredients for success. We should also strive to be kind, compassionate and generous towards others to make this world a better place. We should take a cue from her life and emulate the same in our own lives.